A good friend of mine thinks I don´t take good care of myself because I haven´t done any Botox, or facelifts, or used fillings to cover the wrinkles. I am not saying I will never do it. I may change my mind. But I haven´t done it yet and feel fine like this, with wrinkles and all.
I have wrinkles on my forehead and have frown lines. Also around the eyes and on the upper lip. Fortunately, I don´t see them. And when I see them in my face or in the face of another woman, I like them. What is the problem with getting old? It´s true that we live in a time that idealizes youth, but men don´t have the same pressure than we do to look young. Men with gray hair are considered sexy.
I think a woman who doesn´t hide her age is sexy. When you try to hide the signals of time they become even more noticeable. And it shouldn´t be as important anyway.
The obsession to look younger is oppressive and enslaving for women. And it´s a lost cause in any case. The years lived leave a mark and it´s good to have it and show it. Faces without marks loose expression.
The advertising industry, our own believes and everything around us conspire against us to look for the impossible: look like 15-year-olds. When the only thing we can do is change how we feel about getting old.
One of the advantages of getting old is that guys don´t whistle to us in the middle of the street. We are not as “appetizing” and they leave us alone. How liberating! Another advantage is that I don’t have a problem telling a guy that I´m not interested in his advances. I don´t give them a fake phone number. I can just look them in the eye and say I´m not interested, thank you.
There are many, many advantages of getting old. And one of them should be to finally understand that looks are not as important. It doesn´t matter if others like us, only that we like ourselves. We should learn to feel beautiful the way we are.
I would not want to go back to being 20, 30, or 40. With every year I learn to become more comfortable with who I am. To accept my body. To be happy and grateful for my life and the people around me. I know myself better and feel more self-assured. I know how to protect myself. I know what to do on a rainy Sunday. I can´t say I achieved enlightenment but I like turning a year older and saying how old I am. I have struggled to get where I am. For many years I felt uncomfortable telling my age. Now I say proudly I AM FIFTY and I feel sexy!